what you have to remember is people aren’t here to belittle you, degrade you, judge you. they have done it so much to themselves that they’re unaware of where it all goes. it’s outstanding how much is tangled in within us, that we even hurt the ones we love, because it’s always the ones we love that see our pain. vulnerability is messy. pain has a way of leading our lives, and in order to end this vast phenomenon of pain, you must not reciprocate it. when pain reacts to pain, we poison the air. when you meet pain with understanding, you create the opportunity to revive.